I like him a little, a lot, madly, not at all. Sometimes we don’t know! For you, we have listed the emotions relating to romantic feelings. Because yes, in love, there are signs that do not deceive. Find out which ones and test yourself to find out if you are (really) in love.
Sometimes, we may ask ourselves the question, difficult to know if we are in love or not! The state of love can invade us with various emotions. If some women are sure to be in love, others doubt, but are still it. To enlighten you, we decided to study the signs that do not deceive and we help you to take stock of your feelings in love.
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What does it mean to be in love?
Being in love means desiring your partner’s happiness, admiring them for the individual they are, and feeling motivated to be a better person. When you’re in love, your relationship goes beyond mere physical attraction. He is happy that two individual and independent people choose to share their time together. If you are in love, you are motivated to be compassionate, to be generous and to care for that special someone.
Love and friendship: what’s the difference?
Friendship is love! With a few differences, which are notable. In friendship, there is no carnal and sexual relationship. Also, friendship is often considered a safe and secure value, without the risk of betrayal, abandonment, break-up… But apart from that, in friendship, we love each other! But how do we know, for example, if we are romantically attracted to our best friend? The border being so thin, it is not easy.
The signs that prove that you are in love
So you met a new special someone and started a romantic relationship. You find yourself thinking about it a little more often than before and you now feel those butterfly feelings in your stomach just before you see it. Does this mean that you are in love? Or could it just be the honeymoon phase that every relationship goes by? Sometimes it can be hard to tell if you’re really in love or not.
Your heart is racing
One of the physical characteristics of feeling in love is the increased heart rate when the woman is with the man she loves. The heart is racing as it is beautifully written in the novels. When you see your loved one and your heart starts beating fast, it’s because of an adrenaline rush.
You feel heat in the lower abdomen
When we are in love, we often feel a sensation of heat or tingling in the lower abdomen when we think of the loved one, when we talk about him, when we are about to find him or simply when we see him. The famous “butterflies in the belly“. They are the consequence of contractions of the stomach and a decrease in oxygen in the stomach as a result of the production of adrenaline by the brain.
You only see the loved one
The expression says: “He has eyes only for her”. Love effectively reduces the field of vision of the man in love or the woman in love to the loved one. He no longer sees other women, she no longer looks at other men. An essential component of the state of love. Scientific studies also show that imagining someone else as a potential sexual partner rather than their boyfriend or girlfriend shows a drop in the couple’s emotional commitment and level of satisfaction.
You only think about the other
Do you think about him or her all the time? When he is not there, do you miss him or her? It’s normal, you probably feel love for him or her. However, serotonin is, among other things, responsible for concentration. This might explain why we focus on little other than our partner during the early stages of a romantic relationship. Fortunately, the concentration comes as the relationship beforehand.
You can’t find any fault
The loved one is perfect in the mind of the one who loves. “Love makes you blind”, as the saying goes. In any case, it blurs the flaws, and the man in love or the woman in love sees only the positive and can even over-value the qualities of the loved one. “The initial passion is characterized by the deactivation of regions of the brain such as the frontal cortex, involved in logic and reasoning.
You are possessive
Jealousy. It is indeed one of the components of the state of love. Result: you are afraid of infidelity and you are constantly looking for reassurance about the love that the other has for you. Also accompanied by the feeling of lack when the lover or lover is not there, as demonstrated by an investigation by anthropologist Helen Fisher, author of the book Why We Love?
You are real
After the first date, the first emotions, do you find yourself forgetting seduction in favor of authenticity? You are surely looking to create an intimacy with the person, and that goes through the truth, the sincerity, the confidence. Proof that you imagine a future with the person, that you project yourself, that you dream of a future, of a future with the other, and that you surely feel the beginnings of romantic feelings.
You understand him/her
You don’t need a lot of words to communicate with your loved one. Sometimes a glance is enough. It’s because of the privacy you’ve created, obviously. You’ve probably told him things that no one else knows. But it’s also a question of listening and empathy. You are attentive or attentive to the slightest inflection of his voice, the slightest sneer, the slightest change of intonation that no one else would notice. This is what makes love affair.
Sex is different
The sex with the beloved bring more fun than anyone else. And for good reason, in addition to sex, there is affection and tenderness. What led to a deep satisfaction after the act (again a matter of hormone: oxytocin). Over the course of the relationship, if it lasts, these symptoms subside. But this does not mean that the partners no longer love each other. “The signs are less numerous than the new lovers and the characteristics less vivid.
You take care to make his life sweeter
When we are in love, the well-being of the other is important to us because it is directly connected to our own. His material and moral comfort, as well as all that makes him more joyful, more fulfilled, are the object of our attention and our care. No doubt because we know deep down that if our partner were to be frustrated or dissatisfied, the relationship would no longer bring us the same satisfaction. The permanence of this concern is one of the markers of the feeling of love in the couple. When it weakens, it does not mean that we no longer love each other, but that the feeling of love has died down.
Are you in love? Take the test
Have you just started a new relationship and wondering if he could be the man in your life, if she could be the woman you always dreamed of? Take the test to find out if you are really in love: to the following statements, answer yes or no and count the number of positive answers.
●You prefer his company to anyone else’s
●You speak of him with admiration
●You already imagine a future with him or her
●You told him your biggest secrets
●You are feverish when you go to see him or her
●For you, he’s the most beautiful man in the world, the most beautiful woman in the world
●You would like him or her to be with you all the time
●You better understand the lyrics of love songs
●When he or she is not with you, you are afraid that he or she is with other girls, that she is with other boys
●You are afraid for him or for her when you have no news
●You understand it at a glance
●You no longer look at other men or women on the street
●You have never enjoyed sex so much as with him or her
●You find yourself thinking about him or her while you were doing an important task
●Your heart beats faster when you look at it
From 11 to 15 positive responses: There is no doubt, you like it. You have (almost) all of the symptoms of the love virus.
From 6 to 10 positive responses: You are attached, that’s for sure. Your feelings are developing. Give them time to grow up, love is not far away.
From 1 to 5 positive responses: You are not (yet) in love or in love, but it could come. It is not only love at first sight that exist, love is created, it is built. And if it isn’t him or her, it will be someone else!
The unmistakable symptoms
It is not uncommon to hear about love sickness as the feeling can be overwhelming both physically and psychologically. A real upheaval initiated by strong emotions. To recognize the feeling of love, know that there are many symptoms resulting from this euphoric state:
●Your heart skips a beat as soon as you think of him or when you are with him.
●You have butterflies in your stomach , which can be described as a feeling of heat in the lower abdomen. You feel them when you think of your loved one or when you are about to find him, or when he approaches you …
●The other takes up a lot of space in your thoughts and in your daily life: morning, noon, evening, night… He is there.
●You are ready for anything and ready to follow him everywhere: any concert, any evening … even if it doesn’t really appeal to you.
●Your friends come second, at least your priority is to meet the one who capsizes you!
●You dream of him, day and night. During the day, you project yourself into many pleasant situations and at night… it’s even more intense!
●You feel desire, both romantic and sexual: a desire to be with him and to lose yourself in his arms.
●You are afraid that everything will stop , that he will not call you back, that he will abandon you …
●You are full of energy and you love getting up in the morning at the idea of meeting him, talking to him, looking at him!
●You only have his first name in your mouth. You talk about him animatedly.
●You are getting ready, you want to be on top and you leave nothing to chance, between the choice of clothes, makeup and hairstyle.
●You are literally passionate about everything he does and everything he says … In short, you drink his words!
Questions to ask yourself to find out if you are in love
The answer can change a lot over the course of our life, depending on how we interact with a current or potential partner, how we see ourselves or our future goals. Do you think you might be in love even if you have a long distance relationship? Find out more by down below: we present to you a series of studies based on the signals of love and attachment!
Are you crazy about this person?
Love changes the brain. At the beginning of a relationship, this euphoria we feel is due to the increase in neuronal activity in the areas of the brain rich in dopamine and in those linked to the pursuit of rewards. There is also a peak of activity in the anterior cingulate cortex, the area of the brain linked to obsessive thoughts, a classic experience in individuals who fall in love. As the relationship progresses and becomes long-term, thinking about the partner activates the reward system and the areas of the brain involved in attachment, but no longer activates the areas of obsessive thinking as much.
Do you want your friends and family to value this person?
New studies show that individuals are often motivated to seek the support and support of friends and family for the person they are with, which comes close to the idea that the social circle of individuals carries out. often an important role in a relationship. Wanting to know what the family and friends of a current or potential partner think is a sign that you are attached to that person.
Are you celebrating that person’s accomplishments?
If you’ve fallen in love with someone, you probably have an atypical reaction when you see them excelling at something you’re not necessarily suited to. Romantic partners feel connected and can share their successes. This is why, rather than feeling negative and inferior, they often feel pride and positive emotions in seeing their partner succeed in something, even if it is something they cannot do themselves.
You like that person and she likes you!
Affection is different from love, but it is often a prerequisite. In a multicultural study, researchers have shown that a critical factor that can directly predict love is mutual affection, when each clearly appreciates the other. Likewise, an assessment of the other’s personality as highly desirable is a precursor to love.
You miss this person when you are not together
The fact that we miss someone shows how interdependent our lives have become. If you are wondering if you love someone, try to see how much you miss them when you are apart. A 2008 study showed the relationship between the intensity of others’ lack and the level of involvement in the relationship.
Your identity has grown by knowing this person
When you fall in love, your identity evolves, changes. Discover new traits, new characteristics that grow in the diversity of self-concept through the influence of your new romantic partner. In other words, the “you” before falling in love is different from the “you” after falling in love. Maybe you feel the difference, maybe others see it. Either way, the things that are important to you, your habits, your hobbies, everything is under the influence of a new romantic partner.
Desire, love and passion
Infatuation and desire very often go hand in hand: they are emotions that are created starting from an encounter in which there is a strong mental attraction and harmony that results in a very strong passion and seduction. The bonds that are created on these very strong emotions, and which have no other basis for growth, can become illusory in the long run: they are relationships that can generate anxieties and jealousies, with the risk of falling into an emotional dependence.
This can create an altered view of reality making us run the risk of not seeing the other for what they are. Furthermore, very often this type of story arises from a need to feel loved which can lead to finding the wrong loves and partners, who make people suffer and from which it is difficult to get out. Of course, passionate stories also have their charm and are sometimes worth living, but we must be careful not to fall into the dynamics of addiction and toxicity that can entail in the long run.
The difference with love does not lie in the passion that exists anyway, but in the feelings that love brings with it. That is, serenity and trust as opposed to anxiety and jealousy. Love brings with it total involvement, the certainty of experiencing a unique and unrepeatable feeling, which even if it can upset our life, does not destabilize us but motivates us to move forward in our projects and make new ones.
Infatuation or love?
What is the difference between infatuation and love? And how can we understand what we feel?
Both love and infatuation come from an attraction, from the desire to be together and from a passionate bond, in which chemistry also plays its part. In fact, there are several physical, biological and neuronal components that they explain what love is and its different phases. But love also involves deeper feelings, while infatuation and attraction remain in the sphere of passion and sexuality.
So when we start a story where there is a lot of chemistry, passion and involvement we could find ourselves in both a love story and a passion. How to distinguish them?